crazy little thing called love

hanging out with friends with no concrete goal to be accomplished towards the end of the meeting, but to simply have fun and catch up with each other's life, is not always as plain and simple as it seems. because in that catching up, the very life stories told, more often than not, contains within themselves issues that need to be tackled, criticized, and resolved. and from these issues one learns, as he does his own thinking to help out the friend. while one's credibility and usefulness as a friend is put at stake upon the utterance of the bits of advice for him, still it allows for one to concretize or at least form even a vague stand about the issue, which when deliberated further could lead to one's own learning.

as i was with a couple of friends this evening, it has always been our group's favorite activity to talk about love. over a cup of coffee, we talked about the situation of a friend who seems to be torn between two persons. he can't quite make up his mind as to how to go about with his GF of 3 years. they're not on the brink of breaking up. it's just a matter of less frequent communication and togetherness. [at this very moment, i am led to think about my own story by the music playing on iTunes. i'm losing focus. "...your face lights up whenever he appears. i wish you'd look at me that way..."] as it appears now, he's staying in the relationship for the sake of being in that relationship. he finds interest in constantly talking to other girls, while the GF worries about the two of them. to cut the story short, he doesn't know whether he still wants to be in that relationship. he still loves her. daw. but he seems to like some other girl. i just said, maybe they need to cool off for a while to let him assess the situation. perhaps he only finds interest in meeting new girls from time to time. but that they're not for some stable relationship in the future. maybe he has to see whether after meeting so many girls, he would still come back to her.

perhaps we sometimes have to detach ourselves from the things that we're very much attached to in order to see where we're standing. because that attachment limits us from seeing things at a deeper level. we're stuck at the present. that attachment drowns us into taking things as they are, depriving us of the chance to see and understand deeper. we see our position as the most beautiful and ideal, without really letting us see what things really mean. only if we detach ourselves could we get rid of our own biases, allowing us to see more objectively. moreover, it affords us of rationality, because we're able to weigh things and see which one matters more or which one we really think is better for us. although of course, it still is subjective. hmmm. let's say there's more objectivity in its being subjective.